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Before you buy seductive lingerie to make yourself more beautiful, you might as well think about what beauty is, so you know what you're looking for.
Beauty can mean many things in many contexts, but nothing is normally beautiful unless there's a certain unity among the whole and its parts, and among the parts themselves, along many different axes. What does this mean for a woman who's about to buy lingerie? First of all, it means that you should select garments whose structure reflects the natural structure of a woman's body. The view of a woman's body, unlike a man's, emphasizes curving, continuous lines. Why pick out a lingerie pattern which emphasizes straight lines? When you want your man to be relaxed and happy while looking at you, why create a conflict between the curves of your own body and a straight-line lingerie pattern? Why not pick out something soft and curvilinear? Instead of picking out a geometric pattern, why not pick out something soft and living, like you are? A floral or vine pattern, maybe. Or something lacy which emphasizes the fact that you're a woman? This same tendency to the curvilinear also means that the transitions from one part of a woman's body to another are gradual. For thousands of years, fashion has been pushing women's breasts upwards and forwards. There are anthropologists who can find reasons for this, but in fact, do breasts projecting at right angles reflect the natural structure of a woman's body? Why not look for a bra which is both softer and emphasizes your natural transitions? Similarly, why choose a bra which forces your bosom into an unnaturally rounded or conical shape, when you can just as easily buy a soft one which shows off your own shape? And why choose a bra whose upper border is an arbitrary line at some arbitrary point, when you can choose one whose borders follow the lines of your own breasts, and or which ends at some natural border? The problem of irrational shapes used to be limited to bras, but now the dread has spread to panties. The first stage was panties which were very narrow in the crotch and in front and rose rapidly upward. This is a problem because the dominant axis of a woman's hips is horizontal. In addition, the narrow bottom of the panties looked like it could slip inside of the lady. It can't really, of course, but the tension created by the appearance is enough to ruin any pleasurable effect. After that came the thong stage. The problem here is once again the conflict between the linearity of the stringlike thong and the gradual curves of a woman's body. Even if you manage to escape the vagaries of fashion, you'll have to make an effort to choose lingerie which suits you. You are not the 'typical woman'. (Neither is anyone else.) If the upper part of your belly suddenly bulges above the lower, as it may after several births, don't choose panties whose upper border is just below the beginning of the bulge. It will look odd, and will tend to get pushed down. Find panties which start either lower or higher. As to color, remember that the Princess of Cleves used to avoid wearing yellow because she had blond hair. In fact, it might be a good idea for most women to avoid yellow, unless, perhaps, they have very dark skin. Do you want him to find you desirable, or to worry that he might be getting jaundice? In general, think about your own colors when thinking about the color of the lingerie you're about to buy. |
Some notes on buying a nursing bra.
A glossary of lingerie, of sorts.